But with practice, you can learn to understand and work with it a little better. Some of these things may not feel attainable to you depending on how much energy you have. Whenever your life feels out of control, try to focus on your present actions and reactions to stay grounded.Īs another general rule, you must look inward instead of outward to find the things you have control over.
But as a general rule, you are in control of your actions and reactions. Physical and mental limitations and predispositionsįor everything you can’t control, there is usually something you can control instead.īelow is a list of those things. The following list is not a comprehensive list, but it should help to put into perspective what is not in your realm of control. There are so many factors at play that you simply cannot control them all.
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You cannot control the predispositions that you have based on both biology and your childhood.Īnd lastly, no matter how hard you work and plan, you still do not have full control of the outcome of any scenario. You don’t control the fact that you have emotions. You cannot control the physical needs of your body – food, water, sleep, etc. I must also break the news to you that there is a lot about yourself that you cannot control. And you can’t will the world to work the way you want it to. Similarly, you also don’t control the passage of time, including death. For example, you don’t control the weather. Next, you cannot control nature or the nature of reality. But if we feel responsible for them, that responsibility can manifest in unhealthy ways. We don’t usually try to control people on purpose. You are also not RESPONSIBLE for other people’s actions, reactions, thoughts, feelings, beliefs, etc (excluding your non-adult children). You cannot control their actions, reactions, thoughts, feelings, beliefs, etc. I’ve put together this list, but I wanted to go over some broad items first to help you make yours later on.įor starters, you cannot control people. And when you let go of the need to control what can’t be controlled, life gets a whole lot more manageable. Realizing that you aren’t in control is the first step of letting go of the need to control.
As you go through this list, remember that it’s okay to not be in control of these things. Now, let’s dive into the things that you can’t control. And many of which will serve you much better than your original plan.įinally, if we aren’t trying to control every detail of our lives, we get to spend much more time being present, which is the only place we can live life fully. Many of which you may not have seen with a close-minded approach. By letting go of trying to control every detail, you open yourself up to all of the opportunities and ideas available to you. Sure, it’s okay to have contingency plans! But I’ve found that it’s a much better attend to my mindset and energy so that I can be prepared for any outcome than it is to actually prepare for every possible outcome.Īlso, when we get fixed on trying to create a very specific outcome, we get narrow-minded and closed off to other opportunities and ideas. It’s hard to predict in advance what the exact circumstances will be, what is going to make us happy, what we will need, and what others will need from us.
Letting go of control also makes decisions so much easier. Instead of spending energy on these things, we can save energy and spend it where we do have control and on things that matter most. There are a lot of things we worry about and plan for that we just don’t have any control over. And it’s important to regularly recognize that beauty because it makes letting go of control easier.įor starters, letting go of control takes a lot less energy and effort than trying to control everything. There’s actually a lot of beauty in letting go of control. It’s okay that we can’t control every aspect of our lives.